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Would you ever abort a child?
We have been debating numerous times whether it should be legal to abort.
Let's, for a moment, say we all agree it should be legal - would you ever do it?
What you say and what you do is very different. I myself, am 100% prolife, but I would never ever abort a child, regardless if my finance or mental or physical health were unstable.
Even some pro-lifers have aborted, because when you are in that situation that you're pregnant in a time you wish you weren't.. your opinions and morals tend to disappear.
Are there pro-lifers out there who could imagine them aborting if the timing was extremely bad?
As much as I dislike children, I would never abort it. I really don't like the idea of taking away another beings life. If it was bad timing in a state where I couldn't afford to keep it or wouldn't be able to give it a sufficient life I would put it up for adoption so it has some chance of a life.
I am never going to abort a child ever because every child deserves a chance at life and I am not going to be those people who has sex before marriage and then has an accident and all of a sudden the girl gets pregnant because something happened.
I think his point was that he is not going to make a girl pregnant and let her abort the child, or in other words, he will not be responsible for another girl's decision to abort.
One of these days I am sure Lizzie and I will meet finally but I don't know about getting married right off the bat. We have to get to know each other and go on romantic dates and do stuff like that.
I actually am not going to go on a site that shows your first and last name. I don't want people to know a lot about me so I only give out little information. That is why I don't have a Facebook or any other social media that requires first and last name.
It asks but .. I mean your not bound to write your real name. You could write your first name twice, or if you have two first name, use the second one as your last name.
Still I don't want people to know about me and its better off to not have a facebook because to me its pointless. I can talk to people I know on the phone.
Well I am a Christian guy and if I have sex before marriage it would be a sin and that would break what I would give to my wife in the future and it would hurt my marriage because often times people compare past partners when having sex with their wife and then they are unsatisfied and then the best sex is destroyed and that brings problems in marriage that is why I am choosing to stay pure and to not participate with what the world does.
Marriage is something special to me and when I have sex with my wife who is a virgin as well we both will lose our virginity together and if she hasn't been kissed like I have then we would be both give each other that gift.
I have heard lots of bad stories of what happened to people who were Christian and had sex before marriage and they said that its better if you wait because you will have regrets and hurt that you have to go through and even in relationship with someone who already has had sex and you have to tell your new partner that you already had sex and that can sometimes be hard.
So to me I don't want to go through all of that heartache and hurt because of something like that. I rather stay pure and not deal with those kinds of things that would come up when having sex before marriage.
So you don't do anything that is sinful according to the bible?
because often times people compare past partners when having sex with their wife and then they are unsatisfied and then the best sex is destroyed and that brings problems in marriage
What if you spend some time with your girlfriend without having sex, and then you choose to get married - what if the sex is bad?
Studies show that bad sex can cause major issues in marriage.
You don't even get to try if it's good before, and then it's too late. Your stuck with a bad sex partner for life.
she hasn't been kissed like I have
Oh my God!!!!! Are you a mouth virgin as well? Are you depending on staying that way all the way to marriage? Does the bible say that too?
I have heard lots of bad stories of what happened to people who were Christian and had sex before marriage and they said that its better if you wait
That's a stupid thing to say. A person who didn't wait can't tell you it's better to wait, since he didn't try waiting himself.
So you don't do anything that is sinful according to the bible?
Yes because its God's word and I have to abide by it.
What if you spend some time with your girlfriend without having sex, and then you choose to get married - what if the sex is bad?
I probably will give her the best sex that she has had.
You don't even get to try if it's good before, and then it's too late. Your stuck with a bad sex partner for life.
But marriage isn't all about sex. Its about my wife and I being faithful and being
committed to one another until death separates us. Also if I want to have kids I would have a responsibility to teach my children.
Oh my God!!!!! Are you a mouth virgin as well? Are you depending on staying that way all the way to marriage? Does the bible say that too?
Yes I have never been kissed but I plan on getting my first kiss at my own wedding. I want to give my wife a gift to her and so she would be my first kiss and her's would be mine as well.
That's a stupid thing to say. A person who didn't wait can't tell you it's better to wait, since he didn't try waiting himself.
Well he did wait but he gave into the temptation of doing it and then they said even looking back now that they regret it.
I probably will give her the best sex that she has had.
Like you said ... probably
But marriage isn't all about sex. Its about my wife and I being faithful and being
committed to one another until death separates us. Also if I want to have kids I would have a responsibility to teach my children.
As I said - studies show sex has a major part in a marriage.
I'm only saying this .. you know. For you your own good. I don't want you to end up in divorce.
Yes I have never been kissed but I plan on getting my first kiss at my own wedding. I want to give my wife a gift to her and so she would be my first kiss and her's would be mine as well.
Why?
Well he did wait but he gave into the temptation of doing it and then they said even looking back now that they regret it.
Well either he waited or he didn't. Either way, you can't make such an assumption.
If he waited, he can't say it's better to wait, since never experienced not waiting.
You can't say the apple tastes better than the orange if you only tasted the apple.
It goes both ways. If he didn't wait, he can't say it's better either.
There is no Hebrew or Greek word used in the Bible that precisely refers to sex before marriage but the Bible does undeniably condemns adultery and sexual immorality and one of the sexual immoral sins is sex before marriage because the Bible teaches it the people are doing sexually immoral sins and people weren't controlling their bodies back then.
The Bible promotes complete abstinence before marriage. Sex between a husband and his wife is the only form of sexual relations of which God approves (Hebrews 13:4).
But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. - 1 Corinthians 7:2
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4
Maybe he's training to be a gynaecologist. To be fair the mother doesn't abort a child either. She just lies back and lets the vacuum cleaner do its magic.
Actually it is. The baby has half the gene's of the father and half the genes of the mother it is split 50/50. Part of that baby is the fathers and he should be involved with that choice as it is part of him as well as the woman.
he should be involved with that choice as it is part of him as well as the woman.
That is your opinion. The man does not have the same say. She could always just go and get it. After all the baby burns her energy and consumes her oxygen and develops in her. The man just shot come sperm out. Thats his contribution. She can get it without his say.
• Eighteen percent of U.S. women obtaining abortions are teenagers; those aged 15–17 obtain 6% of all abortions, teens aged 18–19 obtain 11%, and teens younger than age 15 obtain 0.4%.[6]
• Women in their 20s account for more than half of all abortions; women aged 20–24 obtain 33% of all abortions, and women aged 25–29 obtain 24%.[6]
• Non-Hispanic white women account for 36% of abortions, non-Hispanic black women for 30%, Hispanic women for 25% and women of other races for 9%.[6]
• Thirty-seven percent of women obtaining abortions identify as Protestant and 28% as Catholic.[6]
• Women who have never married and are not cohabiting account for 45% of all abortions [6]
• About 61% of abortions are obtained by women who have one or more children. [6]
• Forty-two percent of women obtaining abortions have incomes below 100% of the federal poverty level ($10,830 for a single woman with no children).[6]
• Twenty-seven percent of women obtaining abortions have incomes between 100–199% of the federal poverty level.* [6]
• The reasons women give for having an abortion underscore their understanding of the responsibilities of parenthood and family life. Three-fourths of women cite concern for or responsibility to other individuals; three-fourths say they cannot afford a child; three-fourths say that having a baby would interfere with work, school or the ability to care for dependents; and half say they do not want to be a single parent or are having problems with their husband or partner.
Actually it makes sense to me. Some women already have their kids in their teens and are just working on paying off debt and house loans and whatnot.. having another baby would really throw a wrench in everything. Not to mention all the work of raising a baby the older you get.
The majority of women that are of child bearing age will already have at least one child. I'm not surprised at all by this statistic - its what you'd expect it to be.
The majority of women that are of child bearing age?
You know that starts at .. 13 or even younger right? I don't think the majority of 13 year old girls already have a child, I will allow myself to question that statement.
You are wrong. That is not what I am saying. I saying, idiot, that pregnancy would be traumatic. I do not have to defend myself to you, or go through a traumatic pregnancy just to just your agenda.
You are possibly the most hateful aggressive person I've seen online. The question was - would you ever abort? I had assumed you were answering the question but it seems you just wrote something completely irrelevant. What does the fact that its traumatic have to do with anything? Its not answering the question 'would you ever abort'?
She's is saying, that for her health it would be traumatic to go through with a pregnancy, and deal with a child afterwards. I am guessing it is because she might be mentally or physically unstable, this is just a guess, Dana - I don't know anything about you - this is just what I assumed by reading your answer.
My body, my right, my choice. I have the right to choose what to do with my body. If I feel that pregnancy would be traumatic, I have the right to an abortion.
" I would be 99% in favor of abortion unless someone could promise healthcare that would minimize trauma to myself."
Okay. I understand that Can you explain what you meant by 'unless someone could promise health care that would minimize trauma'. I didn't understand that.
Gladly. Because of my illnesses, I feel that pregnancy would be traumatic. If I knew that I would receive mental healthcare to make things less traumatic, I might reconsider.
I would only abort on one condition: if the child posed a great risk to my health. I know it seems selfish, but I wouldn't want to put my family through that, and honestly, I don't want to die.
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Other than that though, I don't think I would, honestly. I believe in giving people the option to, but I most likely wouldn't. If the child was unwanted, I would probably give it up for adoption or keep it anyway. I don't think I could live with myself, I would just keep wondering what the child's personality would have been, what they would have looked like, and what impact they would have on my life.
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My original answer for this was no, but I decided that the health risk portion would qualify as "depends".
Depends. I don't really want to get pregnant and have kids. I'm getting my tubes tied. And we don't really need more people anyway with how the population is growing nowadays.
It depends on many factors. If the option of aborting the child was the better logical outcome for my survival or If I was forced to carry a child I myself did not ask for then the answer is ultimately yes.
I would only abort on one condition: if the child posed a great risk to my health. I know it seems selfish, but I wouldn't want to put my family through that, and honestly, I don't want to die.
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Other than that though, I don't think I would, honestly. I believe in giving people the option to, but I most likely wouldn't. If the child was unwanted, I would probably give it up for adoption or keep it anyway. I don't think I could live with myself, I would just keep wondering what the child's personality would have been, what they would have looked like, and what impact they would have on my life.
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My original answer for this was no, but I decided that the health risk portion would qualify as "depends".
If I was raped, yes. But in any other case, no. I am not against abortion, but I feel like if I were to get pregnant than it is my job to carry out the pregnancy and take responsibility for the decisions I made that lead to having a baby. But beings the whole "If I was raped thing" I am on the "depends" side.
Abort as in when they are a fetus and still in your stomach? I thin you should be able to have an abortion but the only time I would is when I was raped. I mean if you were raped would you really want your rapers child?? But it would really depend on the whole situation.
