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12
not bad... no! never!
Debate Score:21
Arguments:16
Total Votes:21
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arranged marriages!

is it okay if your future is put in the hands of your parents? 

do they have the right to force you into marrying a person you don't know?

Or would you want to set your future by yourself?

where do you stand? what do you think?

not bad...

Side Score: 9
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no! never!

Side Score: 12
2 points

Well... i think it depends. For all we know, divorce rate is higher than the rate student going to college. Very often we heard that our closest friends are getting a divorce. i am not a parent but i now their knows best for the future of their child, if you're going to marry ' the wrong guy ' but you're blinded by the charms, then i think that's when parent should step in and intervene so that you can be saved from certain break-ups.

Side: not bad...
iamdavidh(4856) Disputed
1 point

Not being cynical, I swear.

Do you think fundamentally the possibility of avoiding a mistake is worth sacrificing free will itself?

That is the heart of your statement. A trade, freedom for maybe avoiding a mistake.

It is an odd positon to take.

Side: no! never!

If you're a baby, and your parents have a friend with a similarly aged baby, and if your parents arrange a marriage with their friends and then live in the same neighborhood together, not only will you grow up having your personality partially shaped by the person you're betrothed to, you'll also experience that classic childhood romance.

What's wrong with that?

Betrothals are only stupid when they are forced upon teenagers, but that's not how they're supposed to work. They're SUPPOSED to work by betrothing two young children or toddlers, and then letting those two children grow up together knowing they're going to be mated when they turn 18.

When a betrothal is done properly in that manner, as in from a very young age, the only chance of failure is if one of the betrothed children is a homosexual. Otherwise, there is no chance of failure in that relationship. I know, because I've studied child psychology.

Side: not bad...
2 points

Actually, it is very difficult issue which has 2 diffirent attitude. But generally, it depends on nationality and mentality, because some nations have the tradition for parents to choose the second half for their child and child actually has no chance. But , I think that, choice of second half must belong to each person individually nut to parents. Although, sometimes, it is better to listen to parents' insistance, because usually love "clouds" the common sense.....

Side: no! never!
1 point

indeed! that is a wise thing to say! not only that but also parents sometimes can know better than you about those things..they see things in a different perspective...and parents will not gain anything from hurting you or breaking ur heart in such issues

Side: no! never!
1 point

well i don't think that anyone should choose my future for me! i will be the one living with that person for the rest of my life not them! i guess so... right? :/

Side: no! never!
SergeiDaniel(41) Disputed
2 points

But parents are not "anyone" in your life......even though everyone has their own values and perceptions.

Side: not bad...
101kakashi(381) Disputed
1 point

yea they are not anyone but they are not the ones who will live with him...i will! thus it is my personality that should match his... of course they have to approve him but they should not be the ones who decide by themselves who should i be married to right?

Side: no! never!
1 point

I think you should have the freedom of choosing who you want to marry and not your parents. Even though back in the old day it was like that and now its different.

Side: no! never!
casper3912(1581) Disputed
2 points

Do you have an argument to go with that opinion ?

Side: not bad...
Srom(12201) Disputed
1 point

Yes because nowadays people can choose who you want to marry instead of the parents choosing who you should be marryed to.

Side: no! never!
chatturgha(1630) Disputed
1 point

I don't think a baby should have the freedom to choose anything for itself. In fact, it's not even mentally capable of choosing anything for itself. It's only capable of trying to coerce other creatures into taking care of it.

Side: not bad...
1 point

It could relieve tension in dating, but if you really didn't like her/him- you can't be expected to marry them.

Side: no! never!
2 points

that is right, but then again, Arranged marriages vary in both nature and duration of time from meeting to engagement. In an "introduction only" arranged marriage, the parents may only introduce their son or daughter to a potential spouse. From that point on, it is up to the children to manage the relationship and make a choice. but when the parents force the child to this arranged marriage...it will cause problems.

Side: no! never!