what do you do you do when your partner changes you by an other ????
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What is love? Is love selfish? Do you want what he wants or do you want him? If you want him, then you are being selfish in that you are not interested in what he wants, you are only interested in what you want. And I'm not sure you can call that love. What you want is a particular "type" of love. A romantic love. A sexual love. For example, your parents love you but NOT in a romantic/sexual kind of way. So when you say you're getting married and you're moving out, it's easier for them to want what you want and not want you to stay with them. Now, this romantic/sexual love is nice but it doesn't last for ever. Try having sex with an old person ;) This particular type of love is but one aspect of what true love really is. So you're feeling down because you want this romantic/sexual relationship with someone who doesn't want to have that with you. And you're left feeling like, I can provide the same thing the other person can so why am I not the one being chosen? You're feeling sorry for yourself and you think that this somehow shows how much you love him. But wait..., there's yet another way to look at it. Placing such a large emphasis on a romantic/sexual relationship exposes you to getting used and being hurt. This is an immature position to be in. An adult would look for an individual who places more emphasis on the other aspects of love like respect, commitment, etc. The person you want to be involved with is not committed to you. You should move on. But that's just me ;) |