firstly, i AM pregnant, and i am going through with a termination. however i came on this site to hopefully get some answers; i am in a very happy stable relationship and all that jazz. however because of complications with my womb, i only have a 15% chance of getting pregnant, that number is only going to decrease as time goes on. and about a month ago i found out i was pregnant. me and my boyfriend are both 19, he obviously does not want a child and has cried and begged with me not to have it even though he knows i may not get another chance. some may say that that is selfish. well it is, but at the same time its selfless, he is thinking about the unborn child, it would not be fair to give birth to a child when one of its parents did not want it. and if having that child would stop you from doing all you wanted to do in life you could end up resenting it. and thats not good for any body.

on the flip side up until 2 weeks ago i didn't think the man should have the right to decide, because the mother is the one with sole responsibility she will be the one carrying it around giving birth breastfeeding and probably looking after the baby in general most of the time. threes nothing wrong with bringing a child up on your own and i feel that if you really really want a child and the father does not you need to evaluate your relationship. is it worth losing someone you love for an EMBRYO?