I don't think it's right to wear white. It's like lying or being ashamed of yourself, you have to wear white to placate societal expectations. If you aren't a virgin, own it. Things in my opinion that disqualify White as an option are, Not being a Virgin, Being Married before, having kids with or without marriage. And the biggest reason, who actually looks good in white anyways?

If you've been married before and have kids, wearing white makes you look foolish, because, well you have kids... I am all for Brides wearing colorful gowns, blush, peach, pinks, taupe, beige, hues of blues. Whatever, but not white. Leave that for virgins, the beginners of life. IF you've lived a little or a lot, wear those life experiences, don't hide them. It's like women who are ashamed of grey hair, you've earn every one of those hairs, they are to be cherished as something you went through and came out the other side of stronger. Wearing white when you don't qualify is a self harming lie, why would you do that to yourself and your partner and your new life together? Incorporate white into your dress, but it shouldn't be solid white.