This is only because they didn't surrender to the greater army who they know they would lose

These stages were very well thought out and worked very well

Women were respected and men believed in loyalty to their wives

I agree and these laws kept all the Mongol cities together

They would only do this if they didn't surrender to them, they were giving the other city a chance to give up without war and death.

Mongols were curious about religions and tolerant toward them. Mongol armies did not destroy churches, mosques, and monasteries.

Mongols would only kill whole towns if they didn't surrender to them.

The Mongols allowed the people in the cities that they took over to carry on with their own individual religions despite if they were were different from one another. This is because Mongols where all different regions together

Mongols would kill whoever stood in there way men or women to get what they wanted

During the time of Hulagu, the Mongols were still centuries from being peaceable. They still needed more land for their people and the only way was to take other peoples land