“The biggest disease today is not leprosy or tuberculosis but rather the feeling of bring unwanted”- Mother Teresa

Most people will define a disease as a structure, function, disorder in a human animal or plant, especially on that exhibits specific symptoms or that affect a specific location and is not simply a direct cause of physical injury. But, a disease can also be defined as unwelcome or harmful and needing to be dealt with and overcome and according to this definition being unwanted can be classified as a disease.

Being unwanted is one of the foremost psychological traits examined when one is mentally ill- depression, bipolarity, anorexia, schizophrenia are all fueled by this feeling. In fact, it is being unwanted that mostly leads to committing suicide. If being unwanted can make people commit suicide, then why can’t it be tagged the most terrible disease. It is a sign of psychologically diseased mind which is every bit as important as the physical disease.

Being unwanted can be divide into two things- Loneliness and unlovable. Loneliness and the being unwanted as grown significantly in the past 50 years and is pervasive in today’s culture. “It is one of the greatest health crisis of our time” states Freiberg and others. The university of Chicago claims is lethal. The chronically lonely are more likely to become diabetic, have sleep disorder, high blood pressure, acquire Alzheimer which is the fifth deadliest disease in the world, and have poor functioning immune system in which they will be prone to more deadly diseases. In 1970, 17% of us lived alone but know it as being estimated that one third of American adults lives alone, sleep alone, eat alone, with 44 million over the age of 45 years suffering from chronic loneliness as measured by UCLA Loneliness scale. One in four Americans report that they spoke to no one about something important to them in the past six months. Even in the Christian bible after GOD created Adam, he realized he was lonely and decided to create Eve to support him and share his felling with him, even God knows being lonely is terrible.

Acceptance and love are fundamental human needs. Abraham Maslow who studied motivation and need, identified “love and belonging” as one of the five essential human needs in order to live their lives to the fullest. Many people worry they lack the belonging and acceptance they require to meet this need. They might feel unworthy of being loved by others.

Being unwanted forces people into thing never wanted to do or they don’t want to do. Things like cultism-just because they want to be accepted, just because they want to be loved or just because they want to feel like they belong somewhere. Being unwanted can also lead to bullying. It has been proven that most kids bully others to fit into a clique, even if it means going against their better judgement. Often these kids are more concerned with fitting in and being accepted that they never think about the consequence of bullying. Being unwanted also leads to teenage pregnancy in the sense that most parent don’t have time for their children either because of work or other things. So by the time the child finds someone that cares about her, she will do anything to keep the person by her side even if it means losing her virginity and she eventually becomes pregnant, girls that once had a dream of becoming something significant in life but because they were lonely and neglected they gave all that up.

They say being unwanted is a wound that never heals. I say an unwanted child never forgets.