Abortion
I am just going to put it all out there so I can get some good perspectives.....I am a young single mother who has been in a relationship with a man who I love very much, but I knew we both did not want more children. Unfortunately things did not go to plan and I am now pregnant. After telling him he told me he loved me and would be here for me wasn't leaving and that even though he was scared was happy for the baby. He told me this for a week and a half and then just changed his mind wants me to have an abortion and wont be with me if I keep the baby. I can't emotionally handle and abortion and now am all alone in this pregnancy. He has been so hurtful and using intimidation to try and force me to do something I don't want, but says that he will take his visitation with the baby and give me money but he doesn't want to be with me. Should I have the right to make him sign over his rights to the baby?? I'm just looking for perspective, please help!!
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Your partner is being a dick. That said, it's ultimately up to you what you do with your body, if you want that baby, don't let anyone strong arm you into doing something that is irreversible and that will completely change not just your life but his life as well, I'd say for the worse. I can't see your relationship getting better after you do this, what's to say that he won't issue you similar ultimatums in different circumstances. Your child, if you want to keep it, will provide you with more purpose and love than any man that is going to force you into making drastic decisions that you are against. I don't want to offend you in any way... but is this the type of person you would want to have as your partner if you did end up getting an abortion? Based on what I've heard, is he not cruel and ruthless and unloving and unwilling to commit and unwilling to take responsibility for his own actions? Keep the baby by all means because if he/she was already born would you not take care of him/her regardless of whether his/her father was this man? Should your baby pay the price for the mistakes of his/her parents? If I were you, I would leave him and try to take of the baby on my own... Abortion is out of the question... its truly whether you want to be with him or not. 1
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You have the baby inside you. The body is yours. You decide. So even though the baby is a separate, living, human being she has the right to kill it? If he leave you because you decided to keep the baby, he is an ass and don't deserve you. Maybe you shouldn't have been cheap a bought birth control pills and should have had enough self respect to date a guy who was decent enough buy condoms and stay with you if he go you pregnant. So even though the baby is a separate, living, human being she has the right to kill it? I didn't told her to do the abortion. I just said that she could do this if she wants to. I think that a woman has this right. Just in the first and second months. In these months the baby isn't formed yet. So, he is a part of the mother's body. Not a living being yet. Maybe you shouldn't have been cheap a bought birth control pills and should have had enough self respect to date a guy who was decent enough buy condoms and stay with you if he go you pregnant. She didn't say that she used pills. She could have used condoms. But accidents also happen with condoms. Of course, she could also have used pills, but pills are supposed to work too. I agree with you that she shouldn't date someone that leaves her because of a pregnancy. 1
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Legally, the decision is completely up to you. Do whatever YOU want to do. Don't do anything because of pressure/intimidation from the father. If you want the child, then you don't have to get an abortion and will get a steady stream of cash after you sue his a for Child Support. But then the child will likely have to live without ever knowing his/her father. It's a tough choice. But it's entirely up to you. Consult family and friends. If you don't have the means to raise the child, abortion or putting him/her up for adoption are options. |
