I don't seem to be having any problems. ;)

Aren't you the one who said MEN should not settle?

Seriously, you said you wouldn't but you're complaining because women are doing the same thing as you.

Maybe you aren't putting the right information out on the site to get attention.

http://www.createdebate.com/debate/show/ Hello_10

Check that out and tell me what you think. ;)

I responded to one of your other debate about women with the post listed below. Bottom line is you can't do the things that will interest a girl over email or a web site (ok well maybe over a web site)...but you need to go out and look for them. And here is a little interesting information for you. My 8 year old son got a valentine for his 14 year old crush who is the best looking girl on his swim team. When he asked her if his valentine was a nice as the other she had received, she said it was the only one! She really is the hottest girl on his swim team and everyone (except the 8 year old) thinks she is too hot to be able to approach! Maybe you just need to get out there and the follow a few of the rules below.

"Dear dobelSoboel3,

You pose a very interesting and thought provoking debate...

I would like to share my humble opinion with you. Please understand this is from MY personal situation.

#1 Girls like guys with confidence...when they are mature enough not to like the guys who are dangerous. So, don't go after the young or immature girls as "Danger Boy" will always win!

#2 Girls like guys who are really friggin good at something...often, they don't even care...just be excellent at something that doesn't equate with super nerd and they will like you.

#3 Women like guys with great bodies, but not as much as guys like women with great bodies. So, you can't be a fat slob, but being a big teddy bear is AOK.

#4 If you are good in bed you can win over a better looking guy...problem here is getting them in bed...oh, and being good in bed.

#5 This one is really important...Women will almost always mate downward or below where they could score a guy, because they want a stable home. Women know if you are just as hot as they are, you are just as likely to move on when you find another hot girl...but the woman who mates down has a much better chance of keeping her family together. Please, please, please spend time studying this one. Seriously it is true.

So, while I rarely give advice, here goes...Go to the gym and lose a little weight...get a little more buff and tighten up those muscles. Figure out what you are good at and get better. Go to the bar and ask the hot women out...you have nothing to lose. And I meant the hot women, not the Super hot women. Learn how to be good in bed. Half of that is making sure she is taken care of first. the other half is making sure she knows "she" is the reason you enjoyed it so much!

And, go get a copy of the Tao of Steve. Watch it and understand it. This kind of stuff really goes on!

Here is a quick addition...some women need their space (they still need to know you are around, but they need to be independent...so please let them)...other women need to feel secure so let them. Remember, this is up to you!

Good luck,

Andy"

What exactly are you saying to them in private messages? There are a lot of unspoken rules that you have to navigate when in the dating game.

Dating sites are great. It's the simplest way to have sex with a fat chick who uses a skinny girl photo ever created.

(don't judge me. you don't know what I'm into :@ )

I have done the internet dating for ~8 years and have had a lot of success. Most of my dating life has been from online dating. There is a definite problem with the seeking of an ideal which deminishes the probability of finding someone. However, although there are many people (both men and women) with the delusion that they will find a perfect 10 in mind and body, there are some realistic and down-to-earth girls on there too. I have had a 2 year and a few ~year long relationships with some decent people. It is not always the girls, it is often the guys that are the problem on these sites - This is because...

Even if you are nice and local, you could be awkward in the perceptions of some of the women and others might have more appealilng options on the table.

There are more guys than girls on there and the girls get bombarded by skeezy douche bags all the time. I understand the frustration that many of the women feel about dating sites. Although you might be nice, the girls are dealing with a lot of crappy people on there, some who are persistant and dont know how to appropriately contact a woman.

Just be yourself, if they like you they like you, if not then it might be you or if it isnt you it could be that they already had an offer. Perceptions of compatibility are pretty broad and rather specific to some.