Does Friends with Benefits work?
Okay so we have all seen the movies like "Friends with Benefits" and "No Strings Attached" and of course it works in the movies but what about in real life? I am in one right now and I feel I want to get out of it but I cant. On the other hand its fun and can end up with a happy ending.
So what's your take on this situation?
Yes It's great
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No It's bad
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Everyone's different. I don't think you can make a blanket statement and I'm just over here randomly sort of. But your description is interesting: Okay so we have all seen the movies like "Friends with Benefits" and "No Strings Attached" and of course it works in the movies but what about in real life? Smart. Don't base anything you do in life as far as relationships on these two things and you will live a much happier, fuller life: 1. Romantic comedies. 2. Any advice about men given to you by women; your friends, Oprah, Cosmo, etc. I am in one right now Cool, so it's technically it's "working" if you're "in one". You mean like, long term I'm guessing. and I feel I want to get out of it but I cant. That's likely not true unless it is a Harem or human slave situation. You can get out of any relationship... you might not want to maybe? On the other hand its fun and can end up with a happy ending. If you cannot separate the fun from a desire for a happy ending, you might want to get out. If you can separate the fun from a happy ending, stay in until you have a relationship closer to what you are looking for. Why burn bridges? Just don't let a "friend with benefits" stop you from developing more meaningful relationships, if meaningful relationships are what you want. ... unless by happy ending you mean you orgasm... in which case that is what a friend with benefits is for exactly and I don't see the problem. :p Side: Yes It's great
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You are 100% right. I agree with what you are saying about getting out of a relationship. I was thinking about how part of me wants out but then I still like having somebody there for me. Lol very funny, I meant happy ending as you start dating etc. But the other happy ending is a good point too. Side: Yes It's great
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Yeah I've been in a few; they're pretty good, nothing special. The only reason I ended them is because I actually met someone I wanted to properly date. So I guess they work...I dunno, I'm a bit drunk and I've just rambled on and on today on most of my arguments ;) Side: Yes It's great
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I've been polyamourous for awhile, so long as you maintain your integrity with some basic rules(which will depend on who you are) then it can work wonderfully. Monogamous relationships tend to be less stable, for there is more that can destabilize them, and destabilize them to a greater degree. Polyamourous ones, even ones where there is only one person for lengths of time are much more honest and fulfilling. Side: Yes It's great
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The whole idea of this is just strange in my opinion. It can work, but there are too many things you have to agree on. If someone starts to gain feeling for another person in the "agreement", then it can skew the whole thing, turning it into a relationship. It's also mainly based on lust, with the agreement that you are friends, but will get together whenever. It breaks up the idea of being "just friends", as not many friends go around making out with their other friends. I do agree that it COULD work, but in my opinion, most of the time it would fail. Side: No It's bad
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I think it could work for awhile, but eventually it would fall apart. Either someone will start to have feelings for the other, or someone will find someone else they have feelings for and want out. Of course, I'm not speaking from experience, so I could have no idea what I'm talking about lol Side: No It's bad
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Does it work? Probably for those people who take part in those activities it does. To me doing anything sexual with someone you don't love is a bad thing while it doesn't hurt anyone yet think about down the line you find the one but your way of thinking about sex and relationships doesn't fit with them? most would probably say then they weren't the one but to me I honestly don't blame even thought I myself wouldn't do that. Side: No It's bad
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