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Human Growth and Development: Should parents use spanking as an option to discipline?
As we have discussed, there are many forms of guidance techniques that help children learn self-control. Should spanking be an option? You are to pick your side, remember you must write a short analysis to the side you picked. Then you must write to two other people. You will support another person's view and you will dispute another person's view. This is a grade and I will be checking for your three posts.
I believe so, it should be used as a last resort at least because I being a sibling of three, was spanked along with my sister and turned out to be disciplined and on the other hand our youngest sister has never been spanked and she tends to make more mistakes even now that shes 10 than we did.
Yes you are right because if the child does something wrong and nothing ever happens to them they will think they will always get away with everything.
But just because they don't get spanked, don't mean they aren't disciplined..it just means they were disciplined in different ways instead of using violence
Their is a possibility that spanking wont do the job either. Many children that are not spanked are more respectful than children that are spanked. It all depends on the parents, they can choose not to spank and have strict rules and a trustworthy relationship with their child. The children that are disrespectful are the ones with the soft parents who let anything slide. The cause for disrespectful children is not because they are not spanked it is because they have soft parents.
That's true because know we know what the consequences are and once a smaller sibling doesn't know then when the parents discipline them they have a complete different reaction!!
Yes, because then they wont do what they did in fear of getting spanked again. Since they will know the consequence. Although, there is also a line a parent shouldn't cross such as the appropriate spanking and abuse line.
Agreed, but if you get spanked with a belt isn't abuse , getting spanked with the belt is a stronger way to show discipline , your hand wont work all the time , and sometimes just pulling out the belt will make them stop.
To a degree I do agree. There should be a line that the parents shouldn't cross and as long as they don't cross it and ensure the child only learns from it then it's okay.
Yes , because if they are afraid of getting spanked then they won't do it again . The parent should only spank them and not go over board and keep hitting them .
I think parents should use spanking as an option to discipline but there is also a limit for everything so they shouldn't use it every time the kids do something wrong.
They get violent because they get it from games. If the parents are too soft then they will grow up thinking they can do whatever they want without limits.
I agree with you while spanking is okay using a belt is too much with your hand you can tell to an extent how much pain you are inflicting with a belt that is extreme and you can't possibly tell how hard you are doing it.
Depends how it's done. Unfortunately most parents aren't child psychologists and do not separate their anger from the act of punishment, and so it is the parent and not the action which is feared.
That said, is there a way to instead of using fear as incentive, to use something positive? Fear seems the lazy solution, but I don't have kids.
I understand what you are saying but, i disagree with you because, Yes children are learning a lesson and fear to do wrong but it's also creating insecurity on them for making good decisions and it effects the relationship between the parent and child.
I think that children should get spanked once in a while. I got spanked when I was little but I could definitely say that I did learn lessons. Don't spank your kids though with whatever you find, you don't want to kill them !!
because depending on the punishment you give a child it doesn't always work, some kids need need that. because just sitting them in punishment its a possibility they will do it again.
But once your child get in their head that you spank them for things they do wrong, when you do something wrong they will feel to do the same thing to you...
After a spanking I made sure I never did it again to avoid being punished because the second time is always worst because you were told not to already.
yea, because even though there are many other different ways to discipline kids, sometimes it won't work so they need a little spank, just to make them learn they were wrong. don't always be spanking them for no reason, that's bad
Yes, but it also depends on the situation and how old the child is if he is a young toddler it should never be the option, they are still learning. If older they eventually know better and are just acting up
I agree because they must understand they where wrong. For their actions, they will receive consequences, and from that they will learn to not do it again.
I believe some parents should spank their kids but only when nessasary because sometimes thats the only way some kids will learn the correct way and listen.
Parents should use spanking as an option to discipline only when it's needed. If the child doesn't follow the correct behavior that they should follow after several times being warned, then that is when the child deserves a spanking.
I have been spanked once in a while for worse deeds. I think it did more good than harm to be honest. It's like touching fire to be honest, but a lot of it depends on parents and kids. It may do its job it may not, but abuse is never good.
Spanking is good thing because it helps the child to learn right from wrong. That does not mean, however, that spanking is the only way to discipline. It should not be something that occurs often, but rather something that seldom happens. It needs to be an event that the child remembers the next time that they're thinking about doing whatever it was that they did wrong.
Yes I believe you should spank a child only when they know they are wrong. The child will understand more if he is scared to do the same mistake. Actions speak louder than words.
I think you should hit you kids because if they did something really bad like crash your car or steal you need to hit them so they know that they should not be doing that.
If your kids are stealing then I think that is more so on how they were raised. Thus putting the parents to be partially blamed. And if they are crashing cars and stealing, then I assume you are talking about older children in their early or mid teens. In which case, they already know right from wrong. Hitting them will not solve anything, it will only make things worse. And I highly doubt a kid would purposely wreck your car. If your car was crashed its more than likely an accident, and as for stealing, there are other way to solve the problem. Hitting is not one of those way. Especially the older a child is, the more they will retaliate. Thus making 'spanking' have quite the opposite affect from that of which is was meant to have.
Kids wouldn't be driving, maybe teenagers but not kids. A punishment that the teenager can receive is being grounded, taking their electronics away, and not help the teenager fix their car so they will learn a lesson the hard way.
In my opinion, I strongly agree that parents should use spanking as an option to discipline their children because the spankings are painful enough for children to learn to avoid doing the wrong things.
i totally agree to what you're saying. The next time they go to do something wrong they will think before they act and rember that spanking they got previously.
I support this because... I got spanked and I turned out to be a good daughter ..spanking teaches you not to do it again and be scared of doing it again.
I believe it is OK to spank your kid when they have done something really bad, they will learn right from wrong. However, that doesn't mean is OK for parents to be spanking their kids every single time they do something wrong.
Yes, parents should spank their children as a way to discipline them so it'll make them stop doing something wrong because they don't want to go through the pain by getting hit again.
I don't have to spank my kids often. But as a parent I like having the option there, as a last resort...if they don't chose to make better choices.
After all, if they are not disciplined properly in childhood, they will be in adulthood via....jail.
I'd prefer them not to go there, as guard to prisoner abuse or prisoner to prisoner abuse is a much more scary thought.
My child rearing strategies reflect current societal expectation and consequences for common citizens.
There are too many argumentative variables with this issue.
How much do you use spanking as a consequence to neg behavior in your children?
For what reason, big or small?
Belt or hand?
I'll say this...spanking when your angry is not a good practice. It teaches your children that if your bigger you can get away with being a bully. When you get angry, take some time to reflect on what the proper punishment is.
Spanking using tools of whatever kind are not a good idea, because you don't really know how much pain you are inflicting. Spank with a open palm on the butt, then you feel the same exact pain as they feel.
Make sure your kids know ahead of time, that spanking is a option in your parenting list of possible punishments. In fact state ahead of time, all list of possible punishments.
And one last thing I would like to suggest, something that works for me...even to this day with my 17 year old lol. If my kids are in the midst of acting out a undesirable behavior..I simply start counting from 1 to 5 out loud. If I reach 5, they go to their room for a time out. It's rare that I reach 5 with all of them in any situation. I learned this in a parenting course and it has been a great blessing to me ever since.
I think spanking should be used if it will teach thee child in the long run but each child responds differently to different punishments while one child just telling them no or grounding them will work on another child it may take a spanking to teach them right and wrong.
Spanking has proved that it is a very effective form of discipline. I can from experience that it is true because I'm fairly disciplined and I was spanked. Of course, this isn't a perfect disciplinary option because some people that were spanked have turned into brats. I believe that it can be a good and bad thing unless you can make it so the child learns from it. The child has to know that there is a reason for him or her to be spanked, otherwise he or she will think of it as bad parenting and will do the same to his or her children and so on.
I believe that spanking you child because it shows then that what they did was wrong and if they dont want the feeling of a but woppen then they wont make the same mistake twice.
Yes i believe spanking should be a viable option for parents. However i feel very strongly that its spanking NOT smacking. And it should never be done in or out of anger.
I agree children are rally smart if you hit them they will just do worse because of the way you hit them and when you do that most of them become abusive
Children starting at age 3 know what is good and what is bad, so sometimes they just do inpermissible things.And they also know that parents won't allow doing such kind of things.That's why parents have to stop this confusion.And usually curse is not enough.
I agree with you to a certain extent. I don't like to spank my children but I will do it if I i have tried other options and they will not stop said behavior.
I agree, if you teach your children not to use physical punishment than the parent should as well follow their own rules. Plus, depending on the child the physical punishment might not even work and the child could possibly hold a grudge against their parents from the unpleasant punishment and cause them to be rebels.
There is a difference between spanking and hurting your child. I understand children copy what their parents do but the child needs to know what he is doing right or wrong spanking is not the first step to telling your child whats right or wrong but they are never gonna learn if you don't set a limit!!
It depends the way you are discipling your child. You can't abuse them either. One spank however, it will not hurt them. You can't take advantage of the spanking method either but one will not hurt to discipline.
I don't agree with what you're saying. The question was "Should parents use spanking as an option to discipline?" It never said they would get hit for everything. You will need to spank your child for some of the most serious things they do because if you don't they will think it's not that bad.
Love and understanding does not solve everything. The child will realize that his parents do not get mad when he does the mistake so he will do it again. You have to make the kid realize he did something wrong.
But if you talk to them with love and understanding when they do something wrong, then they won't see a consequence so they'll keep doing it. Having a little discipline isn't wrong.
Its a combination of love and understanding combined with dicipline. It seems pretty straighfoward to me. Love and understanding with no dicipline will not teach but dicipline with no love or understanding as abuse.
Spanking should not be an option to discipline a child, parents have a lot other options before spanking. Its better to talk to them about what they did wrong and solve the problem in a proper way.
But when they grow up they're going to realize that there is no severe punishment to their actions. They're going to think they can do what ever they want because all they're going to get is a talking to.
I disagree on the parents use spaking as an option to dicipline because the childrens are not going to be scare of what their parents are going to them and also because if you do that to your childrens are learning what their parents show them and also because that is not going to help that much the childrens
Honestly, I believe that spanking shouldn't be accepted to discipline a child. There are many options that parents can take. That's why we have a mouth to speak and say what's right from wrong and wrong from right.
If my children became my parents, We would all die..lol..a point I have discussed with them just recently in joking conversation.
But I do disagree with you sorry. Yes I agree that we should set good examples for our children in terms of respect etc. But I have to say that in my experience children need a firm boundary otherwise they will push and push till the limit. I know..I have 4 and have seen it myself with 2.
No, because instead of spanking them teach them to not do it again. The parent should teach them from right and wrong. Once the child learn they will be well behaved. They don't need to be spank for everything
No, i don't think they should be spanked because in my opinion i don't think it works, maybe it will once, but as they grow up it's not a good technique to do, because then y'all wont have a good relationship and the relationship will not grow. There is other techniques they can learn from.
A parent shouldn't use spanking as an option to discipline a child because they might grow up traumatized and they might feel unloved since they would get spanked a lot, that will cause a low self of esteem. Also spanking shouldn't be an option because at that moment the parent would be full with anger and they wouldn't be thinking logically.
I disagree! Majority of teenagers were hit when they were younger and they do not feel traumatized, it's only a way of teaching children to not do anything bad.
No because spanking might effects the relationship between the child and parents. And Children can pick up on the parents attitude acting violent. There are better ways to solve problems, for example using the other techniques.
Parents should not rely on spanking their children when they are misbehaving. Although, it may sometimes seem necessary to spank your children, in my opinion it should always be the last resort.
I say no because spanking doesn't really solve the problem, anyone can get over a spanking fast, and do whatever they did again. So its better to be a bit strict, than to abuse a kid.
I don't agree because some kids are really bad and their behavior is not acceptable so their parents have the right to spank them to correct their behavior with out being abuse.
I agree sometimes they will get mad, or hurt..but it is a consequence to a bad behavior. If my child hurts someone physically, repeatedly or steals 4 or 5 times...they are going to get a spanking because it means no other consequence has worked. That's not even the worst punishment. Boot camp lol
But seriously, I have considered it with one child.
I used to believe that physical punishment when done not out of anger, but as mentioned by others, the last resort, was not harmful, and I'm still not sure how harmful long term this sort of punishment would be really.
But if it is not enough to instill fear or pain that is remembered, is it working? But if those things are needed for it to work I think then it certainly must lead to other negatives like low self-esteem, social awkwardness, fear-based decision making, etc.
But the ideal way to handle ideal children is easy enough to talk about, some kids are simply little terrorists and that's sometimes bad parenting and sometimes just how they are, because they're brains are small and they are packed full of energy.
What do you do with the kid that just doesn't give a fuck and is going to act out no matter what? What if they start hitting siblings and classmates? What if they kick and scream for hours when they don't get a cupcake?
Sure, usually that behavior means something deeper is going on, but not always.
I wouldn't know what to do with that kid either. Maybe that kid needs some fear? I don't know.
I'm against it, but I don't begrudge it as a last result done the right way. I certainly don't judge a parent so long as it doesn't cross the line into abuse.
I support what you are saying. I can understand how in some cases, as a last resort as you say, spanking can prove to be useful and work. But I want to emphasize 'Last Resort'. Because there are many other methods that are much more effective. But overall I see what your getting at and I understand you point of view.
Well, I have undergone child development classes, therefore I believe in other methods of discipline that do not involve physical harm such as spanking. A child should not be hit in any manner for there behavior, this is the wrong approach. Instead, parents should use things such as a time out, first by explaining exactly why the child has to be in time out, making sure the child understands what they did wrong, then after a while, the parent should then ask the child to tell them what they did wrong, just to be clear they have full understanding on why they were put in timeout. Then the parent should then make sure the child knows they love them. There are other ways then to spank, ways that are far more effective, and create no physical harm. The last thing parents should want to do is hurt their children.
Nope. I believe it shouldnt be done just to discipline a child. Parents could just scold their child just so they would stop what they are doing wrong. Hitting is not really a solution because aside hurting a child emotionally, it also hurts them physically. Kids wouldnt learn the value of respect for their parents because they would only learn how to be scared. They wont do the wrong action again next time, not because they've learned their lesson, but because they are just scared that their parents would hit them
does this make sense: you steal a candy bar from school then your parents steal your favorite toy. you stole something and were disciplined by getting something stolen. hm. same thing applies to this. you hit somebody then you get hit. you get told not to hit somebody, then told not to hit, then hit by the saame person
People should not hit there kids because the kid will think it is OK to hit someone else back like for an example at school they will end up fighting and abusive to others.
I disagree with you because even though the child may be small if the parent were to teach the children at a young age they will know what's right and wrong.
I strongly believe parents should not use physical punishment like spanking to discipline their child. The child will obey if they have a strong healthy relationship with a parent, if they have gained their respect. The parents should have a friendly relationship with their child and the child will soon respect them and agree to what their parents decide although they may not like it. They will learn that the parents know whats best for them.
A. Spanking has been shown as a one-time action correcter and later this might cause more rebellion and distrust from parent to kid. Dogs, primates, humans, all negatives become real after pain occurs by the one who needs to protect you.
B. Four of the twelve Phychies(as you will) have been shown to come from spanking. You are not protecting your child, you are hurting them. Want you child to get a mental disease? GO SMACK EM'!
C. Anger problems are set to a 160% percent higher setting for the possibility if you smack them often. This also increased the chances of developing a brain deformity or mental problem. It is abuse and can ruin your child's future. Stop it right now, please, for the children.
I experienced this, DEPRESSION, ANXIETY, LEARNING PROBLEMS, SPEECH PROBLEMS, AND ANGER PROBLEMS. All this happened from daily smacks. I have fought back, and won. I am turning my life better. My IQ has now increased from the successful re-storage of important brain cells that results in problems when losing them. SMACKING.
Spanking teaches the child that when you're upset with someone you hit them.
The American Psychological Association says, "Many studies have shown that physical punishment — including spanking, hitting and other means of causing pain — can lead to increased aggression, antisocial behavior, physical injury and mental health problems for children... Although it's true that a lot of spanked kids will never develop serious problems, why would you take the risk? There are healthier ways to raise a well-behaved child."
Parents.com issues a strong warning about the dangers of spanking your child. "Parents tend to resort to spanking when they're angry, stressed, or tired, which makes carrying it out in a calm, controlled manner far more challenging. An estimated two thirds of child-abuse cases start off as disciplinary acts and then degrade into something far more menacing. In a survey published in Pediatrics and cited frequently by the AAP, half of the respondents who admitted to spanking their kids said they did so because they 'lost it.' And approximately one in four parents reported that they use an object -- a hairbrush, a wooden spoon, a belt -- to paddle their kids, an escalation of force that has been shown to raise the risk of child abuse nearly ninefold, according to a 2008 American Journal of Preventive Medicine study."
It is unnecessary, as well as being quite unrelated to how a child develops into an adult. There are children who were spanked growing up who grow up to be terrible adults, and children who were not spanked growing up who become good or even great adults.
