Rape is violent and does not have consent of both parties. Surprise sex has the consent of both parties.

A girl who confesses to have a fantasy or wants to role play is, hopefully, a rational, CONSENTING, person who has/is making an arrangement with a person they trust to not hurt them. This is not the same as illegal, non consenting rape.

By this way of thinking girls, and guys, should expect to get raped while at the beach, where the most revealing clothing is socially permissible. Saying that what a girl wears makes her responsible for rape is a product of a false sense of security. It comes from girls thinking that they can protect themselves from rape by taking control of her environment. If I don't wear what that girl did, go to that same place, etc... then I will not be raped. Girls also make it confusing for boys to understand that a girl is not responsible for rape by falsely putting the blame of girls. Rape is done to babies, children, grandmothers, men, women fully covered in religious garments. It is never about what she wears. It is all about a man's character and control.