You can't blame your self for your fathers doing, I don't know your family condition's maybe he was doing it because it was the only way he knew. I couldn't say too much but kids failing on their parents? I can see this in a way, from what I know of my father and his kids, they are very unruling and don't listen much. I think they really need a wake up call I wish I had a dad to be there for me. They had both their parents their entire life that took care of them and I had only my mother that I had to take care of my entire life. I've always thought children like that needed more discipline but maybe they just need more love. Maybe they feel they aren't really loved by their parents for some reason. Which coming from me seems surprising when it feels like I got love from neither of my parents. Everyone only has one life though they can't possibly see things like I do through my life.

What makes you say that? You can say any number to me but you've given me no proof to back that up.

We are the only race of intelligent life that we know about. We aren't perfect, we have a lot of faults but we make it by and we make amazing things. Our minds are our greatest asset otherwise we'd be just animals. Our minds progressed and with it technology too. We can be greedy and capitalist sometimes, others we don't get along and fight ourselves but we are still here and remain the most intelligent species.

We have to many being in jail and prison as it is and it's costing a lot, these people have murder others. They knew what they did and it's time to pay the price instead of them wasting money so they can live until they die.

Oh sure why not just take all the nutrients out of my diet. I'd rather stick to the natural stuff. In America we take out to many nutrients for cheaper by-products just to make more money.

This is rather unclear but under any circumstance I would say no. If the mother was in prison for one reason or another she should be fulfilling her duty for her crime. If the child was in prison the same goes for them. If you really believe the child should be with their mother in prison, with other inmates, that an issue. Children should not be exposed to that, the child should live with a relative or go into foster care.

I think breast feeding is alright just can't there be a better place than in public? It can be very distracting to other people and families. I understand that sometimes the baby needs food now and maybe some mothers are just completely against using a bottle under any circumstance. in that case I would think you could find some private place to do that at least.

I'm not even going to go into what the constitution says. We all have lives we want to keep, weather it's ours or someone else's. Having a gun as a weapon is what keeps us safe. Yes there are people who have them who do bad. Even if you make guns illegal do you think no civilian will get one? Some drugs are illegal yet people still use them. Making guns illegal to the public won't change anything. Actually it will make things worse because the people with good intentions with them won't be able to have them when they need them.

I can understand that but even so with me I just have difficulty ever seeing them. It's simply because the relationship ended, to me that makes it a mistake that's now a part of my life.

I can understand that but think about if you were with someone for 5 years and all of sudden they break your heart. that's a pretty big ouch, I'd say being friends after a relationship only works for some people.

That scares me a little, I don't think your wrong about that I would just think most people would know. Well more like I would hope most would know, I couldn't say at the number.

That honestly doesn't sound ridiculous to me at all, I know people are different. I consider the base things cheating, like sex or making out. anything else would be something I'd raise my eyebrow too.

Me, it's right down to nothing at all, i'm just not the kind of person who can even stand seeing them. I never want to see them or talk to them again, I really just can't take it. It's not even that I hate them I just can't take being around them, ever. For example my last ex still wanted to talk to me and see me, I said yes but for a different reason. She said we could be back together again but now that I look at it I doubt that'll happen. it drives me so insane as it does because she still texts me and shes still on my Facebook. I want to talk to her and call things off but I won't see her for a while. It drives me crazy seeing her in my news-feed all the time, all the photo's and the statuses. I've thought about deleting her, blocking her, or deleting my own account. I would love that however she knows my family personally so I know my family would flare up with the first two options. As for the other I'd have very little contact with my family without Facebook, I know that's weird. I just hope she'll understand when I talk to her, I just need to drop her from my world otherwise I'll still be how i'am now.

I use to believe a lot more in true love but not anymore. I believe true love exists but its very rare. you can say you have true love but to me that's something to a higher power than love. Love to me is really just two people who get along together and work well together.

I'm a catholic myself and I can say most probably are blind to this stuff. if I see hard evidence I believe it no matter what, I'm a catholic but even I can't believe everything the bible says, I believe what I can see for sure. other religions are ok to me sure I don't know what they are all about but its there religion it doesn't matter to me that they don't have mine I just let them be.

me personally I would not even consider it, if there was anything going on I would just end the relationship. There's no point in trying if they don't love you and if they say they do that's there problem because I'd want nothing to do with them anymore. That's just me I take that as saying I don't care about you anymore and well I wished you would of told me but obviously they weren't the person I thought they were.

I know that, that's why I never quite understood that. people seem to get irritated towards that yet that is what usually happens in the end.

Well uh that's great I guess, now go on before I pluck out your eyes hahaha!

no but something I noticed is sometimes people think your trying to change them and they ask you that question. They don't want to change at least not because of other people, now I've never tried to change anyone. but that's what this feels like, just because of a way a lot of people think I should change myself, because of other people I have to change me and then it's like I'm not me.

I know the direct meaning of it but to me there's a worse kind, the one that doesn't get paid.

Yeah I don't believe I should just give it up so easily. but I know not many women do think like that. it's just I've found myself re-thinking a lot of things that I always wanted to standby and upheld, things that made me, me. Those things have been changing because it just doesn't fit in this world.

Yeah, by the way "I can see how fun dating can be but commitment interests me so much more

Commitment is really hard to accomplish, I don't mean in just a sexual way, I mean in an emotional way. Yes it's possible, but you can't expect you to just understand it the first time you attempt it, can you?" I meant in an emotional way too. I use to think to wait for a relationship like that but no one waits now a days so it seems so pointless to me. My whole reason for wanting to wait was because the only one who truly deserves my virginity is my future wife but if she doesn't think the same I don't see why I should.

Sorry I got busy with being a new college kid but any who the lessons im talking about is love the same mistakes are made countless times and light is never shown to the people who wish they had done things different.

haha boring for some yes. I can see how fun dating can be but commitment interests me so much more. of course you never know how things will go early on. yes but the lessons are always a constant repeat from generation to generation they change only in circumstance.

Yes every child is half of their mother and half of their father. however there are dominant gene's, these genetics could be passed down and then you can look much more like one parent than the other.

you would be surprised this world has a wide variety of people in it. but yes that I can see happening.

Yeah it's not hard at all, but once you have sex it's hard to go without. just like a lot of things for example cigarettes or drugs once you start it's hard to go back.

Your absolutely right, I just don't like that things have to be that way. but then that's just how life is.

I of course could never think badly of my children for something like that. I would love them no matter what they look like. I just know what it's like to be like an alien in your own home.

While I can see why getting experience in a relationship might help, all relationships are for love why does someone need more experience with love from others than the one they will be with for the rest of their lives?

"I also consider someone a whore if they're cheating or if they're causing someone else to cheat." by that you mean if someone is causing someone else to cheat that they are a whore right?

"Yes some people are like that, but I don't see why that's a bad thing, just because you wouldn't take part yourself, it's not effecting you if others are, so I don't judge." I agree but I try to stay away from people like that.

"Also having other relationships with others before finding "the one" is a great way to understand how relationships work." yes and no while I can understand people getting or wanting experience. I'd want to not go that route, in the relationship I don't want experience so I can better handle the one I want to be with because I simply don't need it. at least in a perfect world I wouldn't need in this one I think I do but I can't do that because I want to be with the one and only the one.

I know that's probably how some Christians think I however believe in God and Jesus and I believe in heaven and hell and I believe the good go to heaven while the bad go to hell. I always try to be very nice to anyone even to those less fortunate and to those who don't even deserve it. when I was younger the churches scared me into believe I had to be good to go to heaven I eventually stopped going to church. I still consider my self very strongly catholic I just don't believe in some of the things they tried to teach me.

Selling condoms in school!?! that made me quite unpredictably laugh. seriously I believe schools should teach kids to be safe is all not condone sexual activity.

I would be all for because a lot of them do it because they have no where else to turn to well they think they don't and they do it to feed their kids. but at the same time it's horrible and they should find a better way.

I personally wouldn't, or the second. or third or any really. not until I have a ring on my finger and she has one on hers.

haha I almost think it should sometimes but really no it shouldn't the human race may go wild a lot with it but it being illegal won't help anything people would still do it. It might just be harder to do if it was illegal.

Really I'm a strong catholic man but it does fall under Christianity.

In the end it would be better for the two be similar opposites do attract but in the long term relationship they will find considerable differences that the other will have a hard time to accept. I know this because I was in a relationship like this.

Does it work? Probably for those people who take part in those activities it does. To me doing anything sexual with someone you don't love is a bad thing while it doesn't hurt anyone yet think about down the line you find the one but your way of thinking about sex and relationships doesn't fit with them? most would probably say then they weren't the one but to me I honestly don't blame even thought I myself wouldn't do that.

think about why those videos get posted in the first place, to make money, your viewership has made those people money and now, those people will make more of it.

If for example my girlfriend was jealous of me talking to another girl, I would try to stop talking to her so much and almost completely stop I just wouldn't to make her jealous, jealousy is a normal human emotion and to me is understandable.

The only things I look for is personality and morals. what else matters?

There's little to none, as long as I'm thinking the point of dating is to find Mr.right or Mrs.right at least that's what I thought. some people do find their loved ones that early and to me that's a beautiful thing but most of the time that's not how it is. and really it's more like a waste of yourself to be dating so young.

I know at least I would be able to handle a relationship like that no problem. The distance doesn't matter to me I'll see her one day and we'll be together.

Yes, at a certain age group anyway once they get near 17 years old I'd say let them do what they will do.

Not at all, growing up with parent's like mine my dad was 14 years younger than my mother and I'm the result of their union. sure things can seem strange or things can be hard in relationships like these but if you really love the person why does it matter?

I side with you on the same answer but It's not because I can't what for him or her to get out of the house. I want children someday and if there's something I don't want to do it's making half siblings. as a half sibling myself you feel strange, not fully loved by your mother or your father. like there's a part of you they just don't like and I don't want to do that to my children or other's.

I agree with that fully but do keep in mind I ask questions that have nothing to do with my life. this debate article I made (not the 9 month pregnant and wedding debate) is really about me. But I could never marry a woman simply to keep a household with two parents she should of thought of that more with the father of her child honestly. I see women get too attached to almost any guy they should find someone really worth their time but that doesn't happen and they get caught in the relationship and not the actual person.